Let’s Talk About Shame

✨ Days of Awe TOOLS & INSIGHTS: Shame ✨

When the Pharisees dragged a woman caught in adultery before Jesus (John 8:3–11), they were ready to stone her. In truth, they were projecting their own sin and hiding behind false righteousness. Jesus turned the tables: “Let the one who has never sinned throw the first stone.” Convicted, they slipped away, ashamed. To the woman, He offered both mercy and a charge: “Neither do I condemn you. Go and sin no more.”

That’s the tension we all live with—Jesus bore our shame on the cross, but if we keep sinning, it’s like picking it back up again. He frees us not to stay bound, but to walk in new life.

I got a glimpse of projected shame in a church parking lot. A nun tapped another car, left a big dent, and tried to drive off. When I urged her to stop, she exploded in denial and finally hissed at me with contempt: “Who wears such a thing to church?” Her words were meant to shame me. I reminded myself that Jesus was glad to see me—but I never wore that jumper again. That’s what toxic shame does.

Some of us even carry shame for things others have done, apologizing for behavior that isn’t ours to own. That’s toxic.

But there is also healthy shame. Shame can signal that we’re out of alignment with our God-given conscience—out of step with who He made us to be. If we confess and turn from the sin, the shame lifts. Seeking approval, even legal sanction, won’t heal us, because the sin itself is what shames us. In fact, appealing to “love and tolerance” can deepen the wound.

Whatever its source, shame mushrooms in darkness. It compounds pain and magnifies the impact of sin. Unchecked sin can harden our hearts (John 3:20). In its most destructive form, it mutates into narcissism—a shame so deep it forges a false self, driving people to pride, denial, or even evil. The only way out is repentance.

This pattern tragically shows up in churches and recovery rooms, where idolatry, image-management, and hypocrisy pressure people to hide. They end up projecting “a form of godliness but denying its power” (2 Timothy 3:5)—appearing holy while resisting real change.

Shame is the devil’s diversion. It drives us from Christ instead of drawing us to Him for mercy and cleansing. The solution is simple, though not easy: surrender, repent, and receive Christ’s forgiveness. It’s not about fixing ourselves by sheer will, but about being transparent before Jesus and abiding in Him.

Come into the light as you are, and let God restore you to wholeness in Him alone. Forgive those who harm you and release them to His justice. He sees, He cares, He heals, He avenges.

WHAT GOD SAYS

✦ “Confess, and God will cleanse you.” (1 John 1:9)

✦ “No condemnation in Christ.” (Romans 8:1)

✦ “Ashamed of Him now, disowned then.” (Mark 8:38)

✦ “Wake up to righteousness, stop sinning.” (1 Corinthians 15:34)

✦ “Those who look to Him are never put to shame.” (Psalm 34:5)

✦ “Light exposes darkness—and heals.” (Ephesians 5:13)

REFLECT

What are you ashamed of? Is it yours to own? Are you living with the integrity of who you are as God’s child?

PRAYER

Lord, forgive our sins and the shame-based identities we carry. Show us who we are in You and reconcile us to Yourself. Draw us into Your light and bathe us in Your healing love. For those whose masks have hardened into evil, open a window of mercy before it is too late. In Christ’s name, Amen. Thank You. I love You. 💖

DIG DEEPER

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